2:19 pm
So Much In Law Drama

This is long...

So I wanted to tell you all about the ridiculousness involving my BIL the Elder.

For a while now my BIL the Elder has been "conspiring" with my MIL to move her into his house with his family. Actually, he's been conspiring to have her pay for a big improvement to his house under the guise of moving her into his house with his family. See, my BIL the Elder has a rather small house and doesn't really have room for a 5th resident. Also he doesn't have 2 nickels to rub together. So in order for my MIL to move into his house with his family she is going to have to pay for an addition to be built.

At first The Man was thinking that maybe it would be OK to do this. I mean, she seems unhappy living with us and apparently, she now loathes BIL the Younger so she doesn't want to live with him. Oh, not to mention that her house is going to be sold in the summer. Anyway, The Man was considering this plan and did some calculations based on my MIL's assets and income and how much she can spend per year if she were to live another 10 years (which is entirely possible). He also considered the average yearly cost of Assisted Living Facilities. So The Man is thinking well, if the addition is around $50,000, that wouldn't be so bad. He told BIL the Elder to get some quotes.

A few days later The Man gets an email from BIL the Elder saying that the contractors want to know our budget before giving a quote or outlining the type of work they would do. BIL the Elder says the contractors "threw out off the top of their heads" an estimate of $75,000 to $90,000. WhatWhatWhat??!!? And then in the same email he asks The Man that he and his wife need to know how much MIL contribute monthly for the "increase in taxes and utilities." Keep in mind that The Man and I took almost no money from her while she was living with us. At best she paid for the phone bill (which includes the satellite TV) and some food. I mean, if they think they can't afford the taxes that are going to be incurred because of an improvement to the house, then maybe they shouldn't be making their house bigger. Even if MIL helps them, she's not going to be living with them forever. I guarantee that she's going into some type of facility before the end of her life. So not only are they asking for a huge chunk of her money to give them a better and bigger house, they want even more money.

As I said earlier, BIL the Elder has been "conspiring" with (dementia patient) MIL for months concerning this. Then it turns out that BIL tells The Man that "This is not something I am wanting or trying to do." HUH??!? Then why are you even planning this?? I know this is not something my MIL would have come up with on her own. I'm sure that all this was BIL the Elder's idea. But wait, it isn't his idea??? He says it's his wife's idea??? WHY? Why would a working woman who has 2 small children also want the added responsibility of caring for a dementia patient? Could it be to get a bigger house? More money to pay the bills each month? What the hell?

I could go on and on about this. The Man is completely stressed about it all. I think she should just move into Assisted Living.

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